love is beautiful, beautiful is love. many people fall in love with love…
A deep attachment to someone who is deeply attached to you… desperate to be depended on; to be needed. And yet, again the biggest paradox in life… no one is attracted to needy-ness. But that is exactly what love is… people love babies because they are so reliant and needy… needing care. They make mothers feel like the most important thing in the world… because they are. But that is why so many girls dream of having children (untarnished dependence). Untainted ‘love.’ Pure needyness… the kind that fuels love. How can this be imitated? Or is a huge perceived social gap necessary (adult to baby, human to dog, human to less fortunate human… strong to very weak..e.tc). Unthreatening… maybe. A baby cannot hurt… it is almost choiceless/harmelss… like puppy dogs and kittens… or any animal for that matter. There is No fear of being hurt… obvious that ‘it’ loves you, because it needs you and shows it (holds on to you, stares needily at you, squeezes your finger, licks your hand… is happy for your attention… apparently loving you…?. BUT whoever does what you do… feed the animal or child… it loves the same way.
The baby doesn’t love per say… it has not chosen anything, replace the mother and in hours or maybe days the baby is just as happy as it was. It is so easy to love a baby or a dog or cat… but it does not love back… but people believe that it does. I realize that there are many forms and kinds of love… but there must be a correlation that can help to understand a deeper issue. Girls often have crushes on a ‘hot’ guy… they imagine away his greatness… but then they talk to him… and it all comes crashing down. If he was a mute… he would probably have a better chance. The ‘not knowing’ love, a.k.a. The romantic, is so potent… but it inevitably dies. The thought of knowing that the one you are loving (dog, cat, baby, person…) does not really love you, needs you temporarily maybe… fuels love… keeps it burning fervently. Break-up with a girl you really thought had to end… when you drive away, your heart sinks… it is hardest to love those who will not go away… or cannot go away… unless there is that HUGE ‘social gap.’ We have to be loved, but for it to burn strongly ‘loss’ must be right beside. Maybe we just aren’t stagnant being… change/risk has to knock at every door of life.